When You Feel Unseen and Insignificant
I struggled telling people I was a stay at home mom.
Being “just” a stay at home mom was always a fear I had because it felt ordinary. It felt like I chose a safe route. It meant you were no longer valid in society, you were less than others, wasting your life on someone else.
I felt like I had to convince others not to put me in that box. My pride told me I needed a bigger title, something I could say at parties and get people interested.
I wanted to be seen and taken seriously, but instead, I was up to my elbows in poopy diapers, lost in a sea of endlessly dirty dishes, and covered in baby vomit.
It wasn’t glamorous and I felt like it was wasting my brain and my talents.
Didn’t God see me?
Over here wasting away in anonymity?
Couldn’t I be better used on a platform somewhere or in a non profit or ministry school, anything but this?!
if you’re in the midst of grunt work the basic, hard work, often physical or boring work, that is necessary for something to succeed and you feel invisible, consider these points:
1. Nothing is Insignificant to God
“The Lord offers to inbirth faith in each scene of life – so that each matters equally in eternity … no matter how insignificant they seem.” (Luke 16:10 with Luke 17:6 and 2 Peter 1:2)
“And if anyone gives even a cup of cold water to one of these little ones who is my disciple, truly I tell you, that person will certainly not lose their reward.” (Matthew 10:42)
Each task has equal weight to God because he’s not after the result, he’s after your heart. Your heart can be more purified by washing dishes than by speaking at revivals
2. Your Identity is in Christ, Not What You Do
Don’t make your title your idol.
Paul said it best:
“We gain Christ and count all other things as rubbish. Whatever he’s calling you to is how you’re serving him right now and that’s the ultimate goal of life.” (Philippians 3:8-9)
When you truly get this upside down kingdom heart work, you won’t be striving for power or position. You won’t be anxious in regards to your purpose being fulfilled. You will be at peace.
And a woman at peace in her identity is a shocking thing. It’s electrifyingly beautiful.
3. Life is a Test
“Whatever you do, do your work heartily, as for the Lord rather than for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance” (Colossians 3:23-24)
“Whoever exalts himself will be humbled, and whoever humbles himself will be exalted.” (Matthew 23:12)
The humbling process actually removes self and we want that.
I love how Jeremy Riddle put it on Instagram the other day:
“Any ministry that becomes more about someone’s personality than about His presence, effectually chooses to make a smaller, lesser mark on the earth…” -Jeremy Riddle (See the whole post here).
4. God Has Different Assignments for You at Different Times
‘“One who is faithful in a very little is also faithful in much, and one who is dishonest in a very little is also dishonest in much.” (Luke 16:10)
We are given assignments on this earth as ambassadors, not citizens.
Assignments don’t last forever and they can change, but your faithfulness in one assignment will determine the next one.
On Havilah Cunnington’s podcast (episode 99), she talks about assignments in life and blew my mind with this quote:
”Instead of getting lost in my assignment as my identity, I had to understand that God will call us into seasons and assignments for a time. Acknowledge it and grow something in it.”
What you’re doing is SIGNFICANT to God, your identity is in HIM, life is TEST, and this season is an ASSIGNMENT.
I really believe the more thankless a job, the more insignificant your title, the more unseen, unrecognized, undervalued you are to the world, the closer you are to God’s heart.
He sees the unseen, he uses the foolish things of the world to shame the wise, it’s an upside down kingdom and he exalts the humble and humbles the exalted.
And if He’s brought you into a season of radio silence on your dreams, quiet/dark mornings with no one knocking down your door to hear your brilliant ideas, he might be trying to teach you His kingdom principles.